Morals, Meaning, & Motivation

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The following text is in the works, eventually to be published as a book

Possible names: 

 

  • Concrete Steps To A Better Tomorrow

 

  • Pick all 3 (with a graphic of a triangle with Health, Wealth, and Happiness) 
    • a play on the typical pick 2>  triangle

 

 

By Tyger Gruber

 

Foreword:

You’re entire life has brought you here, right now, reading these words in hopes that it can aid you in whichever of the common human problems you are currently dealing with. The fact that you’d read a book named Concrete Steps To A Better Tomorrow means that you are actively seeking to better yourself and your future. I value your time, energy, & commitment; so rest easy knowing I will not waste any of it or try to sell you anything. Everything that follows in this book is the accumulation of the knowledge I’ve gained. It’s not perfect and you may disagree with parts. Some parts of this book will seem trite, like things you’ve heard a million times, and when you do, I ask that you don’t skip over them. I start at the foundation and move up from there. That includes things like sleep, nutrition, and exercise. If you skip these parts and only apply the other aspects of this book, don’t complain when your life does not improve. Sleep, nutrition, and exercise are the foundation of being happy, healthy, & free. You can have all the money in the world, all the friends and loved ones, and be doing something that brings you meaning, but if you aren’t getting enough sleep, you will feel like shit. If you wonder why the T in Time is capitalized, it will be explained as the book goes on. 

With that said, the title you read on the cover is not the real title, the real title is:

 

A Manifesto of Time

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How to live assuming we are Time experiencing itself

 

Preface: All ideas are a mixture of things we’ve experienced, read, watched, and heard, all jumbled up and left to sit a while. Therefore ideas produced are a small part original, and majorily based upon things heard, read, and put into a new context. The following is no exception.

 

The Self // Part 1: 

Happy, Healthy, & Wealthy

 

To break down the title, it could and should be titled Happy, Healthy, and Free; but there is no freedom without financial freedom, and seeing as financial stress is one of the more common and detrimental forms of stress, I see it as more applicable to call it Happy, Healthy, and Wealthy. 

To briefly delve into semantics, I’ll quickly differentiate wealthy from rich. A rich person has a very high paying job with a nice house, fast car, and lots of 0’s in their bank account. For many, this is seen as the goal of life, and once it’s achieved, inner peace and happiness will come. To counter that assumption, a wealthy person is someone with forms of equity that make money for them while they sleep. This could come in many forms such as renting real estate, writing a book, owning a patent, and many other options that once put out, continue to bring in revenue indefinitely. The wealthy person lives well below their means so they never have to worry if they have enough money to eat out at a nice restaurant, go on vacation, or help a friend. The way I will be using ‘wealthy’ in this book as a way that allows the person to be financially free so that they may be truly free.

That said, you did buy a book that was named ‘Concrete steps to a better tomorrow” and it’s only fair that the book does contain concrete steps toward a life where you are happy, healthy, and wealthy.

 

Concrete steps toward a better life

The first step is Healthy, because it’s difficult and ultimately unstable to be wealthy and happy without being healthy. So this first step are some general guidelines to living a healthy life, the foundation of being happy, healthy, and wealthy. 

 

(This step is heavily influenced by the work of 

Joe Dispenza, Wim Hof, Rhonda Patrick, and more!)

 

 

  • Be conscious of your breath

 

For many, a lifetime of stress has developed a chronically shallow form of breathing. Over the course of years, this shallow breathing acts as a cycle that causes stress and feeds back into itself by causing more shallow breathing.  

This one is decently easy to check and fix if it applies to you. As often as possible, observe the quality of your breathing. Is it shallow? Just using the top half of your body and staying in your chest, or are you relaxing enough to breathe deep into your stomach? For the majority of us, we breath shallow. There is no one way to change this, but the way I propose is to dedicate a week to being conscious of your breath. And this doesn’t necessarily mean meditating for half an hour everyday where you breath well, not that that’s bad and would be great, but the focus should be on changing how you breathe when it’s subconscious. The way I propose this change is to try to catch your body off guard as often as you can. 

That last sentence probably sounds a little kooky since you are your body, but for the sake of these steps, view your body and your mind as two separate systems. To go on a small tangent, this differentiation becomes apparent when you look at gut microbiota. For example, if you eat lots of processed foods with refined sugars, unhealthy bacteria called candida grows and with it comes a myriad of health problems, but equally important is that healthy bacteria such as coprococcus and dialister that are associated with a decrease in depressive symptoms die off and leave unhealthy gut flora such as candida, actinomyces, mycobacterium, and corynebacterium that are associated with disease. So if you eat really shitty for a few weeks (or years) then the bacteria left in your gut are ones like candida that feed primarily on refined sugars and cause depressive symptoms. Because of this, you can eat an entire healthy meal, but still have this hunger pang for something sweet because your body is telling your brain what to do, and barely even your body, your unhealthy gut bacteria that didn’t get fed sends signals to feed it what it needs, sugar. In an ideal situation, with a healthy diet and adequate probiotics, your gut microbiota would be ones that feed on healthy fibers and aid in battling depressive symptoms, ones that make you crave healthy foods and feel completely impartial when you look at soda. 

This shift can be a hard one to make, because like all things, it is not black and white. As an extreme example, nicotine is helpful in people with anxious and paranoid thoughts by increasing alpha waves in the brain which help block out stimuli not necessary for survival, so while we typically associate smoking cigarettes with harm and evil, there is a small bit of good in there that is the basis of the habit. To bring this back to gut microbiota, some of the flora that feeds on refined sugars do some good by drawing heavy metals from the body. So when you change your diet and supplement with probiotics that improve the quality of your gut flora, those suckers that make you crave refined sugars and increase depressive symptoms die off. When this happens, they release the heavy metals they were holding which is partially responsible for the awful period you may feel when changing from an unhealthy to a healthy lifestyle.  This release of heavy metals may cause temporary headaches, body aches, cold sweats, and general feelings of doom. This is often enough to scare people away from change and back to the life they knew. 

That is an example of how your body and brain are different. Your body dictates what you’re hungry for, and if you live consciously and make decisions rather than your body going on autopilot, your body’s old existence will fight tooth and nail attempting to survive. A large part of this book is changing your body’s operating system to one that is conducive to a happy and healthy lifestyle. 

This change may take weeks to change over, and that’s not easy. But if you give yourself eight weeks, just two months. Your body will have a new operating system that you won’t have to fight against in an attempt to be happy. Right now your body is probably on autopilot running an old operating system from a ‘you’ that wasn’t conscious, and wasn’t making a conscious decision to be happy, healthy, & wealthy. But now you are, and that old operating system has had years to build up, myelinating axons that run from an event to a reaction, that isn’t conducive to you leading a happy life, but here’s the manual, the handbook, the guide, & the steps to take over the next two months, that if followed, will allow you to change to a new operating system that helps you instead of one you have to fight everyday. 

Alright, that was a little longer of a tangent than I expected, but it’s good to keep that in mind as we continue onto the next steps toward a better tomorrow. But to tie that back into breathing, I bet you’re unconsciously shallow breathing by now, even though just a couple paragraphs ago you realized that it was a change you need to make. 

Breathing is the foundation which everything else is built upon. It won’t be easy, but over the next two months, stop multiple times a day to be conscious of how you’re breathing and manually change it from a system that takes in shallow breaths, to one that breathes deeply, every breath of the day. 

 

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  • Get adequate sleep

 

For most people that’s 8 hours a night, there are a very select few that run better on less, but you are not one of them. There’s a quote, I don’t remember exactly who originally said it, but Jim Carrey said it and it’s perfect. It went something like: Depression is a real thing, but unless you’re getting enough sleep, eating healthy, exercising, and talking with friends/family, you’re not even giving yourself a fighting chance. To build on that, the most important of those is sleep. And I’m not going to list all the benefits of getting 8 hours of sleep, or the detriment of getting less than that because you’ve probably heard it a hundred times. If you haven’t and are genuinely curious, look up Matthew Walker and you’ll find lots of talks, podcasts, and articles where he goes into detail. 

I don’t have any long story or facts to back this one up because I don’t want to bore you and I know that you’ve already told yourself a hundred times that you’re going to get on a schedule and start getting enough sleep, but somehow never do. I guess the step here would be to set a realistic schedule. Just because you see these inspirational people get up at 4am and run doesn’t mean that’s the best idea for you. If you don’t have to be at work/school till 9, then set your schedule to sleep at midnight, wake up at 8am. 

Set a nighttime routine. It could even by 10 minutes long. Something like Stretch for 8 min, brush teeth for 2 min, Wim Hof breathwork for 5 min and lights out. Keep it simple, the longer/more complex, the less likely you are to adhere to it! 

If you’re not breathing deeply and getting 8 hours of sleep, the following steps won’t do you any miracles. Work on your foundation. This step is to get 8 hours of sleep every night for 2 months. 

 

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  • Drink plenty of water 

 

If your pee isn’t clear, drink more. It’s pretty much that simple. Don’t drink soda, don’t drink sparkling water, just drink water. Plain ol’ boring flavorless water. Chug it down. The only other things you should be drinking is probiotic drinks like kombucha & kefir. Seriously, stop drinking that brown sugary sludge just because you like the way it tastes. Your body tells you that it wants it, but that’s the dying gasps of your old body & operating system. If you ignore those desires, there’s no way you’ll still be craving soda in two months. 

 

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  • Develop a healthier relationship with food 

 

Treat it like a drug because it’s not too far off from the truth. Nutrition information can be extremely confusing because there’s just too much conflicting information, so here’s my best at making nutrition as simple as possible.

Avoid refined sugars, the biggest offender here will be sugary drinks like soda and energy drinks. That is the biggest thing by far. 

Next would be take a multivitamin with breakfast since nobody actually gets everything they need from a balanced diet. The best supplement I’ve tried that I stuck with was collagen, if you can afford it, your skin, nails, and hair will thank you. Don’t worry about limiting fats and salt, they’re not evil and research has shown that eating more healthy fats and salt are actually good for you. An example of healthy fats would be grass fed butter, fish oils, & avocado oil. 

Diets have their place, but what it really boils down to is anything that makes you more conscious of the foods you’re putting into your body. The best diet is one that is sustainable that you incorporate into your daily life. The easiest diet is to avoid processed foods and refined sugars, don’t eat fast food, and don’t drink sugary drinks. Just doing those things should set you on the road to success. 

The reason I’m leaving this one vague is because I’m not here to be apart of your relationship with food, but just to encourage you to start that relationship. Find out what foods make you feel the best four or five hours after eating it. Eat more of that. That’s all there is to this step, be conscious of what you’re eating.

 

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  • Take Probiotics

 

There are a few options here, for me I brew kombucha because I like the taste & it’s too expensive to buy everyday. Another great option, probably even better than kombucha, is kefir. Then if you can’t stand the taste of either of those, take a probiotic capsule, they can be a little expensive, but are worth it. Investing in your health is the best way to spend your money. Health is wealth. 

This step may be the only one that is a call to go out and spend money, but it can be done very conservatively if you make your own kombucha. There are tons of guides online, but if you want the quick and dirty, just buy a raw looking JUN kombucha from the store, get some green tea, and bulk honey. Then get a large gallon jar, and if you can find one with a spout, even better. Brew up the tea, mix in a lot of honey, and let it cool. Pour it in the jar, pour the jun kombucha in the jar, and put an old t shirt over it with a rubber band to keep out fruit flies. 

I suggested jun kombucha over traditional because jun feeds on green tea and honey, whereas traditional kombucha feeds on black tea and white sugar. Jun brews quicker (1-4 days) annd traditional kombucha can takes up to a week. So I guess the cheaper option would be traditional kombucha since honey can get expensive, but whatever works for your budget. But now instead of spending 3 dollars per 16oz bottle of kombucha, it cost 5 bucks for a gallon. 

Whatever works for you, find a way to incorporate healthy probiotics into your diet.

 

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  • Enjoy yourself 

 

This one’s a step that’s harder to implement than it is to read. Whatever reason you have for not enjoying yourself, put it aside. Let me paint a picture, then try to relate it to the step. And this story may not represent you, but just go with it for a minute.

You wake up on autopilot to an alarm you’ve heard a thousand times. You get dressed and drink your coffee or whatever without even making a conscious decision to do so. You drive to work, a route you’ve driven 10 times a week for a long time. Then you get to work, and continue your autopilot until you can go home. By the time you get home you’re so tired and sucked of energy that you eat and throw on some mindless tv until you pass out and do it again the next day. 

 

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  • Work toward a goal, even if that goal may not be where you end up 

 

Putting one foot in front of the next is better than nothing.

 

This seems like a decent enough place to delve a little deeper into the concept of changing your Operating System (OS). To quickly delve into a few examples, lets go over why you may have developed a certain OS and why it may it may no longer serve you. These examples will be very vague and if you have the affliction but not the root cause, just meet me halfway.

 

Social Anxiety: If social interactions typically bring you inner stress, there could be dozens of reasons why your body would adopt this OS. One example would be growing up in a household where your parents often fought, yelled, or displayed disappointment. Because of this, your body evolves an OS that is hyper aware of social cues because that was what helped you traverse the environment of your past. Now you’re older and living away from home, but you never switched your operating system. While it helped you greatly in the past, it has now become a detriment to your mental health. 

 

Chronic Pain: 

PTSD: 

Eating Disorders: 

 

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  • Love deeply, and give people the benefit of the doubt until they give you a reason not to 

 

Don’t let the past wreck your future. I’ve found it pretty common for people to use their past mistakes as a way to completely fuck up their future. 

 

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  • Call your parents often 

 

    1. They brought you into this life and spent considerable time and money getting you where you are, be grateful

 

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  • Surround yourself with people you would like to be more like 

 

    1. We are the sum of the 5 people we spend the most time with

 

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  • Genuinely wish the best for those around you 

 

    1. Envy is pointless & success is better shared with people that are genuinely happy for you

 

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  • Apologize when you can 

 

    1. If you get swept up in emotions, go back and speak with the person once you’ve had the chance to cool off

 

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  • Compliment anyone who looks open to receiving one 

 

    1. It’s the easiest way to spread joy and brighten someone’s day

 

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  • Train your body, even if that means going on a walk twice a week 

 

    1. It’s your vessel while you’re here, make the best of it

 

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  • Train your mind, if you don’t have a predisposition to mental illness, take psychedelics 

 

    1. They are essentially working out for your psyche

 

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  • Forget your past mistakes, and forgive yourself 

 

    1. You were young and naive, you’re not blameless, but you’re certainly not your mistakes

 

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  • When working on self-betterment, work from the inside out 

 

    1. Don’t waste time on superficial things to cover up faults, fix them at their core

 

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  • Misery loves company 

 

    1. People will try to suck you downl. Stay positive in the face of sadness.

 

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  • Don’t lie to yourself or judge your thoughts

 

    1. If you don’t like reading, own up to it.

 

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  • Shift your view of death to that of a positive experience, such as going home after a long trip 

 

Death is as natural as birth, society has stigmatized it, but it should be a joyous occasion just like childbirth where you may finally let go of all worries and obligations. You are not your body.

 

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Other 

  1. Hunger is the best spice
  2. Health is wealth
  3. There will be people that don’t believe in you, don’t be one of them
  4. Money isn’t everything, unless you don’t have it
  5. It’s Chaos, be kind – michelle mcnamara (Nelson Sigrah)
  6. I’d rather speak and be corrected than never speak

 

The Self // Part 2: 

Happy, Healthy, & Wealthy

Once the foundation of health is created, and the body has switched operating systems from one that you’re fighting everyday to one that facilitates your best self, let’s tackle wealth creation. 

 

(This step is heavily influenced by the work of Naval Ravikant) 

 

Step 1

Define what it means to spend Time in a way that is meaningful, fulfilling, & worth living.

  • Typically done so by helping others in one form or another
  • Examples:
    • Educating
      • School teacher
      • Speaker/author
    • Physically
      • Physical Therapist 
      • Chiropractor
  • Emotionally/Mentally
    • Therapist 
    • Pharmacist
    • Psychiatrist
    • Surgeon
  • Pushing field of research further
    • Clinical researcher
    • Chemist
    • Pharmacologist
  • Finding and stopping those accountable for human suffering
    • Lawyer that takes down companies/warlords 
      • Ex: Amal Clooney, George Clooney’s Wife
  • Politician
  • Creative endeavors
    • Musician
    • Film maker
    • Fiction Author
    • Painter

 

Step 2

Define what a comfortable life is

  • divide it down to yearly expenses
    • include room for savings

That is now the goal for a suitable yearly income

  • Increase number 2-5% a year to keep up with raising cost of living & inflation 
    • Add new expenses and life changes as they come up
      • Ex: buying a house instead of renting changes this number drastically

 

Do yearly cost of a comfortable life in google sheets so numbers are easy to move. Keep this fluctuating number/ range of numbers in mind.

 

Step 3

Find a way of spending Time that fits your definition of what it means to live in a way that makes Time spent meaningful, fulfilling, & worth living.

 

Find a way to monetize that ‘job’ to the point of making what you define as enough to sustain a comfortable life, the number from step 2.

 

The Self // Part 3: 

Happy, Healthy, & Wealthy

 

How to be a generally Happy person.

Define the life you’re manifesting // working toward. Start by writing down your Morals, Meaning, & Modivations: You need to write down the life you are manifesting. How is the universe supposed to give you what you want if you don’t even know what you want? Or if you don’t believe in that wu-wu nonsense, how are you supposed to work toward a goal that you’re unsure of? Let’s get it on paper. Open a google doc, word doc, or grab a piece of paper. 

 

(This step is heavily influenced by me 🙂

 

Write down your Morals. Rules you live by and won’t break. These may change over time, but at the very least, get them on paper as a general guidebook for making decisions. 

Examples: 

  1. No lying for personal gain
  2. Tough decisions should be made on utilitarian morals, where whichever option will help the most people while harming the least number. 
  3. Do not steal.
  4. Do not falsely accuse others.
  5. Do not commit adultery.
  6. Do not physically or verbally abuse others.
  7. Take care of your parents when they are old.
  8. Take care of those who cannot take care of themselves.
  9. Be kind to strangers.
  10. etc.

 

Write down what you derive Meaning from. How you may spend your time that you find brings value to the world. This may be only one thing, but it could be dozens. Find how you want to spend your time, and systematically make decisions that allow you to allocate more of your time spent doing those things.

Examples:

  1. Physically healing others
  2. Helping others free themselves from financial burdens
  3. Mentally healing others
  4. Teaching others
  5. Etc.

 

Write down your Motivations. What’s the reason you want to be better? Why are you doing all this? Having it written down helps if you experience a low while changing operating systems. 

Examples:

  1. To wake up feeling good physically
  2. To be at a place where I am emotionally present to help friends and loved ones work through difficult life events
  3. To impact the world for the better
  4. To be the best parent possible
  5. etc.

 

🙂

 

And with that, you now have a general goal, a guideline for decision making, and why you’re doing this written down. 

 

I encourage you to take it a step further and write down some decently specific examples of the life your manifesting. These may change over time, but again, just create a general template so you know what you’re working for.

Examples:

  1. To be financially free by the time I’m X-years-old
  2. To have a partner that is the following values 
    1. X
    2. Y
    3. Z
  3. To live near X (The ocean, a specific city, the countryside, etc)
  4. To be spending my time doing X (Sorta redundant because you already wrote something similar, but get specific with how exactly you want to spend your time. 
    1. What would your “work” look like? 
    2. What would your freetime look like?
    3. What are some hobbies you’d like to invest in?
    4. What time would you realistically like to wake up/fall asleep?

 

Closing

Thoughts, Meditations, & Ideas

Drugs are tools:

If someone says that they’re going to drink coffee for mental clarity so they can work better, or drink alcohol to relax and let go of their inhibitions; we see that as a valid statement and understand where they’re coming from because when you drink coffee you genuinely do get a buzz, and when you drink alcohol you do become less inhibited. 

But that’s where it ends as things are today. Research is coming out that makes it apparent that “drugs” such as MDMA, Ketamine, Marijuana, and Psilocybin are extremely useful tools for helping people heal and work through depression, anxiety, PTSD, existential angst, and physical pain. If any doubts are had from this cursory statement, look into the work MAPS is doing to backup the previous statement. 

Moving forward, drugs should be viewed as the tools they are. The following statements are my perception of what they can be used for, but there’s something called pharmacological determinism, which pretty much means that if you go into a drug with a certain expectation, that tends to be what you get from that substance. It’s more or less confirmation bias.

 

MDMA: Helpful for processing trauma and connecting with one’s self.

Psychedelics (DMT, LSD, Psilocybin): Great at breaking down preconceptions and allows someone to start fresh rather than living a life based on “How things should be” and previous events. Great for resetting the mind and body

Kratom: Useful for the temporary assuagement of angst & physical pain, also a gently way to learn about addiction.

Marijuana: Sort of a mix of most other drugs. Jack of all trades sort of thing. 

Nicotine: Good for increasing alpha brain waves which help people block out noise in a signal/noise world, especially useful for people sensitive to distractions.

Amphetamines: Apparently agonizing dopamine and norepinephrine receptors are useful for productivity, which is probably why it’s so valuable and overused in the current system where productivity is valued over other things such as peace of mind, happiness, and wellbeing. Not that amphetamines destroy the latter, it is a tool that should be used when productivity is necessary (It was used in war to keep soldiers alert such as someone stationed in a submarine staring into a periscope for hours on end. Easily abused if those in power instill morals of productivity over all else.

Caffeine: Baby amphetamine, probably a different pharmacodynamic mechanism of action, but similar effects to a lesser degree.

Ketamine: Helpful for taking a vacation from one’s body and thoughts, especially for people with depression when used medically. Pharmacology seems to help rewire a depressed brain. (Haven’t researched enough to really speak on, but from a cursory glance that’s what it seems to be, if someone has an idea for a better description email me.)

Nitrous: wobwobwobwobwob, laughing gas is pretty underwhelming. Euphoric dissociation for 30 seconds is not a super useful tool for much, but I guess dentists found a use for it.

 

At default, almost every decision we make is based on fear:

If you’re a guy, why don’t you wear pink? Probably out of fear that people will think about you.  If you’re going to Uni for an engineering degree while you despise meticulous calculations just because it’s “safe” and you’ll make 60k when you graduate, you’re making a core decision of how you’ll spend your life based on a fear based decision.

 

Instructions if you’re currently depressed:

Break the cycle your body is currently stuck on. Go on a run, it sounds impossible, and it probably is right now. Start by just putting on clothes and walking out the door. Walk a half mile, and if you feel even a little bit of energy, try to run the littlest bit. If it catches on, keep going. the distance doesn’t matter, but just go run for 15 minutes. Long enough for your mind to go quiet and give you a soft reset. When you get back from the run, use that high of endorphins to clean your room and start a load of laundry. Doing this will sort of string along that high, and it’s important that you use that to eat a healthy meal & get a good night’s sleep. You may still feel like shit waking up the next morning, but at the very least you’ll wake up to a clean room, having exercised the day before, and on the road to a better system.

 

Instructions if you’re currently suicidal:

Acquire MDMA or DMT (or both) and consume an adequate amount to receive a hard-reset. You’ve got nothing to lose. Take care & know you’re loved. You’re most likely feeling this way from a lack of sleep ❤

Thoughts if you’re anxious:

 

Scraps to add in where appropriate // half-baked concepts:

 

Depression: Depression has so many causes it’s unfair to give one example. It could be due to lack of sleep, poor nutrition, lack of community, and a plethora of other aspects. But a way that’s explained by an old OS persisting past its use would be the experience of a traumatic event, and the following depressive episode typically seen to depress the memory/emotions/mental space. Jim Carrey famously said that depressed should be seen as deep-rest, and that it is a necessary part of life to rest from being the character you’re used to pretending to be. There is great freedom is being your genuine self in that it is easier and you will be surrounded by people who enjoy your genuine self, therefore it takes much less upkeep to just be yourself. So if your body’s OS is experiencing a depressive episode, it’s a symptom of a greater issue, not the cause. Masking it through the use of SSRI’s is putting a bandaid on a festering wound rather than doing the hard work of cleaning it up and allowing it to heal. 

 

Empathy: Empathy is a tool used by people in power to control others. To delve into the thought, what would be the objective benefits of having empathy/being empathetic? My understanding is that it would allow someone to deeply feel and resonate with others. This is dangerous because the majority of people are unconsciously working to bring you down to their level mentally. Being empathetic in that case is like loose clothing during a fight, it’s a way for people to grab hold and dictate you based on something outside your control. Which takes it to the power point. Think of the greatest thinkers, creators, and leaders to have ever lived. Do they strike you as people that were easily swept up in the emotions of others? If so, fair point. If not, then why would that be? My understanding is that people in power use empathy as a way to control and distract others. Ever noticed how the world is always in danger? Or how there’s always another group of people that are at fault for your life not being perfect? The best/worst example of empathy being used by power is Hitler. He got an entire country to empathize with him, empathize with his anger toward another group of humans as being the cause of all their problems. 

The benefits of empathy in my mind would be that it’s more conducive to happy and healthy interpersonal relationships. But again, this could ultimately be a weakness because if you’re unconsciously empathetic to those around you, manipulative people will be drawn to you because they see it as a receiver for their controller. Stop and take a look at those around you. Do they often push boundaries, using your empathy as a way to make sure you don’t speak up? They often take the form of snake-like people who make you feel bad for them, and use that to control you. 

To break that down, manipulation is by no means an inherently evil act. There are three primary ways of manipulation. 

 

The worst, but unfortunately most common form, is the manipulation of others for your own benefit. This is often the sneakiest form that often goes unnoticed until it’s too late. Do you feel like someone is slowly tightening their grip, breaking down your boundaries? Someone nearby may be manipulating you for their own benefit. They act like an anaconda. And how that snake works, is that everytime you exhale, it grips tighter so you can’t take as large of breath next time. This can look like someone asking you to work a few minutes longer without pay. Then next time it’s expected that it’s okay and within a year, your time is no longer being valued and they ask hours of your time with nothing given in return. This sadly happens to most people at some point in their life for them to learn to recognize and not allow it again. 

 

The “best”, but most unrealistic form, is the manipulation of others for their own benefit. It’d be awesome if this weren’t unrealistic, and many will try to convince you that it’s a real way that people conduct their lives, but it isn’t realistic in society today. That’s because the current model of “success” is that of monetary benefit. This form of idealistic manipulation would be handing a homeless person $100. It may seem like a perfectly one sided manipulation, where you give and they get. And even if you don’t mention it to anybody, post it on social media, etc. You’re still most likely doing it to feel good about yourself, which would be a decent example of the third form of manipulation.

 

Whereas the most realistic, and ultimately best form, is the manipulation of others for mutual benefit. An example of this would be persuading a colleague who has worked at your company longer than you to go get a rise so that you may use it as leverage to get your own raise. A situation where manipulation 

 

Noise pollution: It fuckin sucks.

 

Money

Money is time & energy in physical form. Typical day jobs are short term games where you trade your time & energy today for a physical certificates (dollars) of your expended energy at the end of the month. 

 

Much like a CD, the longer term games you play, the better the return. 

 

Long Term wealth creation games are slow to start, but with enough leverage, can make one financially independent a decade later. This is equivalent to laying bricks on concrete to build a house. You won’t be able to live in it for a while, but once it’s built, it’s stable.

 

The other side of that spectrum would be selling your time for money. This could be equated to building a house by throwing up plywood on a beach. It takes constant maintenance to upkeep this house, and if you stop selling your time/building the house, it will collapse. 

 

The current system, starting with education encourages kids to go down the second path, and often dismiss them from attempting the first. 

 

The second path would look like creating leveraged equity. That could be ownership of a company or ownership of creative output (book, movie, music, podcasts). The reason people often don’t go down this path, is because the gratification is far removed. It’s like offering someone, “Hey, do you want to put in a ton of work with no promise of reward, and if there is a reward, it’ll come in a few years.” To many, this uncertainty and distant gratification does not work for them. For most, the certainty and 

 

Sole Water

Salt is important & we’ve been fear mongered against it. If you’ve got a headache, feel light headed, cold, etc etc. Mix a teaspoon of salt (preferably pink himalayan salt or ocean salt – just because it’s less processed & has trace amounts of other minerals) 

 

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