Every chance you get in life has odds. Some chances are possible to calculate, such as the odds of winning the lottery, or getting a job when you know the size of the applicant pool.
The calculations aren’t always exact, but you can get a general idea of things.
But then there are chances which are uncalculable. The odds that your first date will go well, that you’ll get hired, or you’re going to make a friend. These things tend to have the variable of another person’s opinion.
For these things, I think the chances are always 50/50. Either they like you or they don’t. And I think those are the best odds you’ll find in life. My personal strategy is to go for as many opportunities as I can that have another human as the key variable.
I think the main benefit of this model of thinking is the grace you’ll allow yourself if things don’t go right, along with the courage to pursue more opportunities because there’s always a 50/50 chance.
Even with abrusd situations, imagine you see Brad Pitt on the street. If you walk past without taking a chance, then you’ve got no odds of anything great coming from it, but if you say heck, there’s a 50/50 chance that it’ll go well, you mine as well swing for the fences. Kindly say that you’re a fan of his work, and ask if he’d be open to mentoring someone- or something like that.
You could argue that the odds in a situation like that are definitely not in your factor, but I’m not so sure. Put yourself in his shoes for a minute.
You’re going along your day, any number of things could be affecting you right now, maybe you just finished a gig and you’ve got loads of freetime, maybe you just read an article about the mental benefits of mentoring someone…then someone comes along and has the chutzpah to pitch themselves to you.
You don’t have the time to weight it up, you just default to your gut feeling, do you like the person?
And when people are being genuine, kind, and reaching for a greater life, people tend to like helping.
The biggest thing here is to no have requested be too vague.
It’s significantly easier for someone to say yes to a concrete request such as “Could we grab lunch” or “Could I walk with you” as opposed to these open-ended esoteric proposals like “can you help me?” where it’s impossible to judge how much time and effort it would take.
Respect people’s time and energy. Take as many opportunities as you can, preferably ones with human variables because the odds tend to be decent. Be kind to yourself when things don’t go perfectly, the odds aren’t always going to be in your favor.
There was a 50/50 chance that you’d click this article 😉